An Introduction to The Art of Seduction

The art of seduction is the art of getting what you want without fighting. In other words, in a successful seduction, the seducer gets everything he or she wants from the 'victim' willingly, to the point where the 'victim' goes out of their way to help the seducer get what he/she wants.

Of course, I am putting the word 'victim' in quotes because although the skillful seducer gets everything desired, the 'victim' doesn't necessarily feel victimized. In fact, in a good successful seduction, the victim never feels pressure but gives out of their own desire to please the seducer.

One somewhat unknown fact about seduction is that it's something created by women. Yes, the Don Juan's of the world are known as the great 'Seducers' but they did not create the art of seduction.

As explained in "The Art of Seduction" by Robert Green, in past times it was more common for men to be merciless and as a result women became almost helpless. Yes, she could entice a man but once a man gets sex she loses her power. This was overcome by women such as "Bathsheba, from the Old Testament; Helen of Troy; the Chinese siren Hso Shi; and the greatest of them all Cleopatra", who created seduction as a way to gain power.

In Cleopatra's case, after she was thrown out by the pharaoh (her brother/husband, as was the tradition there, then) she showed up at a meeting of another conqueror rolled up in a rug. When the rug was unrolled she stood up in stunning cloths and makeup. Everyone was speechless. That night Julius Caesar became her lover.

Cleopatra continued to dazzle Julius Caesar with sensual and visual delights, becoming the male fantasy figure that is an underlying part of all male psychology (more about that later). In other words, having sex with her wasn't enough, she created a desire to possess her. And when Caesar was most seeking her attention, she would withdraw and leave him wondering what he did wrong. Then he would strive to make things better thereby becoming more her slave everyday. She did reclaim her throne.

In the 17th century men appropriated women's techniques of appearance, style and dramatics and combined it with "soft words", which are a weak spot for women, to overcome their resistance to sex. This was an age when women had more freedom and choice. Many of these seducers were Spaniards from which the Don Juan legend sprung.

In our times women are treated less like property, giving them a sexual and political freedom that they haven't had in an average of 4000 years (2000 yrs in Europe and 6000 yrs in the middle east -approx- matriarchies dominated before then). So of course previous tactics of getting a women, such as arranged marriages and as part of business or political deals has ceased to work. (At least, in the west).

This means that now more than ever, seduction has become a key method of gaining power, both sexual or social.

Can seduction skills help anyone? Yes. If you are not good looking, it simply doesn't matter. You can still seduce successfully. Cleopatra was plain looking but her use of make up made her extraordinary, by being able to capture the male fantasy figure in her persona; which is nothing new, women know this today just as Neanderthal women knew about it in their time, and there is even evidence that the Neanderthals mined for red ochre to use as lipstick (yeah, that they were 'savages' may be a myth...the tradition of burying the dead and the domestication of the dog can also be traced to Neanderthals - for more read, Primitive Mythology By Joseph Campbell).

Gabriele D'Annunzio, was a journalist in the 1880's in Roman society, who was so ugly that men didn't care if he talked with their wives. But when he talked to women, some said it was like church bells, other said it was hypnotic, and still others claimed he would transform into the God Apollo. He knew just how to flatter a woman, suggesting sex and romance without necessarily doing anything, making their hearts flutter. He married the daughter of a Duchess and continued to grow is social and literary stature through the help of powerful women.

For women, for whom marriage was like slavery, found excitement and pleasure in the idea of a man who was totally absorbed in them and with whom they could let go of the huge social role of civility, commitment and loyalty that she is expected to maintain in society. At a lecture I attended, I actually heard a successful 'intellectual' claim, with complete assurance, that "chastity is a woman's greatest virtue", which underlines the role she is expected to play.

The seducer offers her a break from conventional reality and she is a willing victim. Just as a man is when faced with a 'Marilyn Monroe' like persona, who stimulates him in a way that is very powerful and effective.

3 Secrets To Dating Any Woman You Want, Today

I have been single most of my life. For more than 20 years I dated models, hairdressers, sales girls, actresses, cocktail waitresses, real estate agents, school teachers, artists, law students, business owners, unemployed wanna be somethings, sweet girls, bad girls, smart girls and not so smart girls. In the mix were gals that wanted me to settle down, gals that were gold diggers, others that just wanted to party, get a free meal, ride in a limo, clean my house, make me dinner, clean out my wallet, you name it.

Time and again, my buddies would ask me why I had so much luck getting so many girls, gals, women, whatever your choice of vernacular. And time and again I would try to explain the super simple reason for my success.

I would tell them in less than 5 minutes and explain why they were always driving home alone at night while I was just getting the party started. What did they do? Most kept doing the same stupid things they always had.

They fell for the same nonsense, with the same types of women, got shot down again and again and again, and scratched their head and you know what watching fat obnoxious idiots walking out the door of night clubs and restaurants with the hottest chic in the joint.

Now, don't get me wrong, if you don't look like Freddy Munster, bathe, wear clean clothes and wash your car, it's easier. But, not necessary. The key to success with women is not what you do, what you drive, how much money you have or where you went to school. And it's definitely not kissing up to them, buying dinner, taking them home to met your ma or any of that garbage that well meaning losers who have never had a date or married Miss Tons of Fun are willing to impart gratuitously at work and on the way out on a Friday night.

The Secret to Getting Any Girl You Wantl

The real secret to getting any girl you want today, tonight, right now is simply knowing what goes on in a woman's head. Figure that out and your cup will runneth over with drop dead gorgeous girlfriends, or whatever you are looking for.

The Problem

99.999% of all men have no clue what goes on in a woman's head and how to use it to their advantage. That's why they operate with ill conceived and totally wrong information and end up as losers, night after night, week after week.

Face it, how often do you see the same group of losers at the same bars every weekend, looking over the crowd, alert to every hot chic that comes in. A short while later they're shaking their head in disbelief when the bombshell leaves early with some dope who has a 'cat that ate the canary' grin on his stupid face.

I know it happens. I watched some of my friends do this for years. They're still at it too. Finally, I got tired of having a date a day and settled down with the hottest gal in my town. And I live close to Malibu, CA where the hottest women in the US hit the beach ! Maybe you'll do the same thing too…when you get bored of having so much fun.

3 Simple Techniques for Dating Any Woman You Want Today !

The first thing you have to do is to stop doing what you've been doing or you will keep getting shut down week after week. Then start looking at things from a winner's perspective.

• Get inside a woman's head and figure out what makes her act, react and get interested in men. Use her body language like it's a telegram from her head. She's telling you exactly what she's looking for.

• Read her thoughts and she'll be yours today. It's not rocket science but it is a bit of a science. The science of male-female relationships. Men who have the key to a woman's brain shortly open the door to her heart and all that includes.

• Divert her attention from your looks and become her dream boat today and she'll find you irresistible.

It's not hard to meet and date the most beautiful women of your dreams. If it was, all the fat, sloppy, rude and broke jerks wouldn't be so successful. Success can be yours today. Just accept it as a matter of science and be prepared for that special chemistry to kick in !

Why Does He Keep Hurting Me?

Sheila Asked:

Hello - I'm trying very hard to communicate with a man who was my lover for a few months. He ended it with me with no reason given but said he wanted to be friends, even though we got on very well and the sex was great.

He says he wants to be friends but yet doesn't seem to understand what that means. I see friendship as being able to trust, communicate, share thoughts and feelings, being there for one another if the other one is down.

My problem is that he shows me none of these. He has lied to me many times and always seems to be trying to get one over on me. I was very down recently and he wasn't there for me - in fact he ignored me. When I confronted him later he said he wouldn't have been much good to me anyway.

I know this is a sign of him not wanting to be friends and you may wonder why I am chasing a friendship which is obviously not working but although there is a very shallow side to this man - I see beyond that and have told him so. I have told him I want to know the real him but this seems to scare him even more.

I have had two attempts recently at telling him my thoughts (by emailing him) and he has ignored them both, even though he said he would respond (this was nearly two months ago). The emails asked him why he is constantly pushing me away and putting up boundaries and if he doesn't want my friendship to just say so. I told him also that I think he is very callous but this is only one side to him and I accept him how he is because I also see a very funny, fair guy underneath. I asked why he has changed towards me when we used to have such a laugh. I told him also that I want him to at least reply to my emails even if he could not open up to me - asked him to please send me a reply which just said that he is unable or he doesn't see my point of view but please don't ignore me. Why does he ignore them then tell me he wants to be friends? How can someone be so cruel - for power?

We talked recently and he said that I dwell on his negative qualities but this is not true. When we were together there was none of this, only laughter and sex.

I am just so confused. I know men find it hard to show their feelings and he doesn't normally get emotional. In fact he appears very cool and unaffected by emotion, yet we argued a few months ago and I told him he wasn't worth the energy and I didn't care. He got annoyed and since then he seems to be deliberately provoking me and he seems to be defensive all the time and using sarcasm. I told him also that I didn't want to talk to him again so he didn't bother contacting me. Its been 2 months since we've spoken (only communication is through my emails).

Why do you think he says he wants to be friends and likes me - in fact he said he 'more than liked me' but yet is not willing to apologize or respond to emails when he knows I want him to respond.

He acts like he hasn't a care in the world. My emails also said that I thought he was unhappy and he can talk to me and trust me. Thank you

BlushGirl Says:

The first thing I must comment on, is when you said, "there is a very shallow side to this man - I see beyond that and have told him so", how do you see beyond something like that? This man is cold, uncaring, and downright rude to you and you are making excuses for him. You are NOT dealing with a very nice person here. You say you understand that men have a tough time showing their feeling. Again, that is an excuse for his very bad behavior. Many men, in fact most, have no trouble showing their feelings when the situation calls for it. The reason he appears so cool and unemotional is because that is who he is. In your letter to me, he comes off as a selfish, uncaring person, and I know you know this. Why would you want anything to do with someone who has lied to you. That alone shows his true colors.

You have given all of your power to this man. It is time for you to get it back. Start by breaking ALL communication off with this person. He does not deserve a friend like you. This means no more e-mail. In fact, if he e-mails you again, return the email to him with a polite message stating you are no longer interested in hearing from him. Do not let him manipulate you ever again. Do not let ANYONE treat you the way this man has. You are stronger and more in control than that. You have just forgotten.

He told you that you dwell on his negative qualities. I ask you…what other qualities does he have? This is a negative person and you cannot change that, so stop trying. He is playing you; toying with your emotions. PLEASE take my advice and get this bum out of your life. He tells you he wants to be friends and likes you more than a friend because he is a player. In fact, he probably has a hard time even thinking about anyone but himself. In his world, he comes first and always will.

Now, having said all of this, and probably upsetting you, I want to say one more thing. I feel for you, and I know you are hurt. It is difficult to move on sometimes, because we are afraid we won't find some one new to love us. Trust me, this guy is not the one, but the right guy is out there. Don't miss out on the right guy by focusing all your attention on this loser. Get him out of your life now before he takes all of your self-respect and dignity away. You have ALL the power here; it is time to exercise it. You are stronger than you think. I know you will be just fine, now YOU need to know it too. Take that first brave step by getting this man out of your life for good. I wish you much luck and love. - Kelly

How to Dating With Asian Woman

Asian women are far detached from their western counter parts. The beautiful feminine charm and warmth that the oriental women carry is very appealing to all especially the western men. The ladies, from western countries are no less attractive but they differ from Asians in that they are physically louder whereas Asian women are more bonny and fragile. The hot busty Asian woman is a rarity, for the physical features are quite soft with average weight and height keeping them in featherweight category – euphemistically speaking.

Some gorgeous Asian women have carved their name in gold by winning "Miss Universe" and "Miss World" titles. Asian dating is becoming very popular and you can find Asian single man or woman almost everywhere, as Asian community is widespread worldwide.

Then there is the attraction of the exotic. Western single man mainly white man has always been in search of exotic being it food, travel and women to name a few. Well not to be one sided the desire for white women for romance, love and sex dating, is again nothing but a desire for the exotic. It is all East to West and back East and all revolving on same cog.

Some western men express desire to go dating or even marry Asian women from the Thailand, South Korea, Malaysia, India, Philippines, Singapore, China and even Vietnam. The attraction is in the cultural richness, ethnic variance and a more traditional approach that is bonded to conservative society and community norms. This perhaps gives western men the safety and comfort - apart from being exotic - that the loyally independent and liberalized western women may not be able to deliver. In short, oriental women appear to be more submissive and hence safer for long life relationship. Asian women from conservative society is born and brought up as future mother, wife and hence, a family oriented person who guarantees family comfort and responsibilities of motherhood. They no less sexually appealing at the same time and hence, Asian sex is much sought after in Asian personals in a free online adult dating site or match dating service on Internet.

On the other hand westernized or modern Asian men disapprove of their complement for being tradition bound and for their behind the curtain roles. A characteristic, it is not apparent in most of the western women.

East meets west using online dating site. Interracial dating is very much part of the universal group of people that the World has become.

Speed Dating Can Liven up Your Dating Life

Speed dating is often thought of as the ultimate act of desperation, but it can be a lot of fun and is a simple and effective way to liven up your dating life. If you have hit a rut in your love life and you simply want to get out and have a good time, you'll find that speed dating is a good way to change things up and get out of the house for an evening. If you have any luck, you'll walk away with not only one hot date planned but several.

Even the most standoffish individuals usually end up having a great time when trying speed dating for the first time. If you go in with the attitude that you simply cannot leave any worse off than you came, you'll likely find that there are some people attending the session that could be a lot of fun to hang out with, grab a drink with, or that perfect person to go see a movie with. It may seem impossible, but some have even found their soul mates through speed dating. So, while you may think that speed dating is nothing more than a waste of your time, it's definitely worth trying!

Speed dating can liven up your dating life because if you haven't been on a date in weeks, months, or perhaps years the actual speed dating session will allow you to go on several mini dates. Chances are if you are yourself and interact with other people, you will have more dates when you leave, or at the very least some phone numbers to call and plan some great dates. From just one speed dating session you could get more dates than you have had in the last five years, just about anyone would have to consider that a livening up of their dating life!

If you are looking for something new to do, a way to get back on that dating horse after some down time, speed dating is a great way to start having fun again! Speed dating can give you back your confidence, help you understand what you do and do not want, or just give you some practice making small talk and living through those uncomfortable first date moments. Speed dating can be the best thing that has happened to you in a long, long time!

The Real Secret To Be Instantly More Attractive To Women

Here's an instant formula on how to be more attractive to women. Stop being easy.

The reality is most of guys are just way too easy. Unfortunately, this is not attractive to women. The common mistake is that when guys receive the 'signals of interest' from women (for example, when they smile, ask you questions, touch you, etc), they get comfortable and immediately move to develop rapport with the women. Unfortunately, this is a mistake, and often they will find that their target would lose interest in them.

The reason for this is often a woman would yearn for a man who challenges her. She wants the feeling of not being able to get the man without substantial effort on her side. She wants to work to be rewarded. If she thinks that she has sorted you out and has you under her thumb, you will lose her.

Remember to continually keep her guessing by using this technique called the 'push-pull'. If you want to retain her interest, be more unpredictable and create more tension between you. This is the reason women are attracted to jerks is exactly this. Jerks are challenging, and they keep women guessing about what's coming next.

However, I am not recommending you to be an all-out jerk in order to be more attractive to women. By being a jerk, you will eventually push her away, which defeats the purpose of the entire interaction in the first place . The key here is to balance being challenging and cocky with humor and empathy. The true player knows how to calibrate and paces the interaction between himself and the woman she desires so that he is challenging but remains accessible at the same time.

So here's how to be more attractive to women instantly. Just stop being easy, and start being a challenge.

5 First Date Tips For Building Instant Attraction

How do you handle yourself on the first date?

This is an important question which a lot of guys ask! They like a woman and want to make a great first impression, but they don't know how to act when they're on this first date.

Well if you're one of these guys, have no fear!

In this article, I'll reveal 5 simple first date tips that'll ensure you build attraction and make an incredible impression on her.

First Date Tip #1- Remove your worries and expectations

The biggest problem you'll face on your first date is worrying too much about being perfect. While you want to make a great impression, you shouldn't worry so much about what to say or how.

A simple solution is to not worry about the outcome of the date.

By relaxing and not working yourself up, you'll come across as confident. Just remember that if the date goes badly, the only thing you've wasted is some money and time.

First Date Tip #2- Limit your time during the date

Another mistake you could make is plan out an extravagant and fancy event for the first date.

The goal of the first date is to qualify each other for a future relationship. So at first, you're not sure if this woman will be somebody you want to be around for 2+ hours.

Instead of going for a fancy date, you should meet her for coffee or a few drinks. That way, you can have a quick exit strategy if it's not going well.

First Date Tip #3- Be in control of the date

Women love guys who are decisive and confident. By taking the initiative and planning out your first date, you'll show a positive quality to her. Furthermore, by controlling the date, you'll be able to choose an environment of your choosing.

First Date Tip #4- Flirt with your date

Now the first date isn't always about exit strategies and qualifying each other. Most of the time it's about having fun!

The secret to a great first date is building rapport and attraction.

When you're on your date, you should have fun and flirt with her. If she is not attracted to you, then it'll be hard to build anything. So it's important make sure your having fun and flirting with her.

First Date Tip #5- Know when you can break the rules

The previous four tips aren't carved in stone. There will be times when you should know to break them.

For instance if the date is going well and you think sex is a possibility, then you shouldn't worry about limiting your time. All you need to do is use these tips as a guideline and know when to break them.

By adhering to these 5 first date tips, you'll have a lot of fun and excitement with women. As a result, you'll find that it's easy to build attraction and rapport with each of these women.

Stage 3 - The Worst Part of a Relationship - Power Struggle(D)

The fight in this familiarisation phase is for power, individuality and boundaries which clearly define unacceptable behaviour. As expectation plays such a huge part in the relationship, this is the stage where all the differences and disillusion prompt you both to start adjusting individual expectations to make your union real. Unfortunately, it is not that easy to do because disillusion and frustration lead to a tendency to blame and past events now become significant in the ensuing power struggle. Many people also marry expecting the relationship to meet all those childhood, personal, unspoken needs, but it can't. One person just cannot do it all. We need another life as well. That is why when one partner is stuck at home, they are desperate to chat when the spouse comes home, but that's when he/she just wishes to be silent and to chill out.

So, when problems occur in the marriage, one partner is invariably blamed. It's always his fault or she deserves to be hurt. This is accompanied by short memories of good times with long memories of the bad, as well as the urge to destroy what you've had since courtship. As each person changes from day to day, it is often difficult to acclimatise to differences. According to Dr Susan Campbell, going deaf is a power struggle syndrome, "...as the tightening of the jaw in anger actually impairs 80 per cent of our hearing ability". No wonder there are constant accusations of partners misinterpreting, not listening to, or not hearing what is being said. There is obviously some truth in that.

This stage of conflict actually reflects our personal 'baggage' because each person is the product of his/her past history. Along the way, the individual learns by trial and error how to get his needs and desires fulfilled: following an entirely individual path to the present point in his life. Our personal happiness is our state of being, dictated by our thoughts and actions at any given moment. The expectation of getting happiness from a partner is thus a selfish one which removes the responsibility from us and places it squarely on the shoulders of another.

For this reason, we cannot expect another person's means of expression and action to be identical to our own because he/she would have gone through a different 'school of life' or set of experiences. We can make our relationship needs known to our partner through polite requests, but the exact method the partner uses to show her love and care is completely her choice. It will also be based upon her individual life experiences, one which will be often at odds with your own. While no person is independent enough to survive without the care or input of others, total reliance on partners not only leaves us feeling inadequate but also burdens the people we care most with unrealistic expectations about and makes the relationship oppressive.

Learning How to Discuss and Disagree


The key to greater harmony is learning about the new person, her/his positive and negative ways; learning how to discuss, disagree or to argue a point and still be able to love, and feel loved, with mutual respect. This is a most vulnerable stage, especially for the person who most desires the relationship to succeed. As you gradually discover what is important to you, it becomes necessary to reclaim yourself as a whole individual, instead of as an extension of someone else, otherwise you are likely to die inside with frustration, or end up despising your partner. Some people devise coping mechanisms for success at this important time, such as not encouraging discussions which might get out of hand, but this does not encourage openness and actually breeds more resentment. Others might still remain in the 'besotment' stage and play to expectations. A few might not argue, or they avoid going to sleep on an argument, making up soon afterwards to prevent any animosity being carried over into the next day.

In this domestic power struggle the focus tends to be on the present, with much embellishment from the past. There is also a nervousness about the future, even with some anxious questioning as to whether there will be a future. Trying to find a common bond can be exhausting, and sexual desires may become less intense. During these periods, you may need to take a break from each other or seek to discuss personal anxieties relating to what is going wrong and where you are both going. Some relationships, particularly those of younger couples, never survive to this point because the parties lack the maturity, communication and 'stickability' to deal with the negative aspects, those invisible forces that emerge in their partners.

Many young couples are surprised that they could get so vicious toward each other. As no one told them this would happen, they are often shocked at the developments and, in this confused state, they are likely to decide that the relationship is over. This key stage is one where, if the couple is married, divorce is likely to occur or couples are likely to seek counselling. Focusing positively on what you both can do to improve the relationship should sort out some thorny issues and take you to the next critical stage of alignment.

Affection vs Attraction

What is the difference between affection and attraction?

Which one would you rather have women feeling for you?

Attraction is the path that leads to sex. Affection is the path or reality of caring and niceness but lack of sexual interest.

When a woman feels affection for you, you're probably too much of a nice guy. She may think of you as 'just a friend' or maybe even a potential husband who has 'provider' stamped all over his forehead.

Maybe you'd be someone she can end up bossing around if you remain complacent. Affection is something you feel for a puppy dog.

Attraction is something entirely different. When a woman feels the powerful emotions of attraction and attributes it to you, all kinds of interesting things are going to happen.

Being seen as a 'lover' is different than the social archetype of being a provider.

whether you are emotional and understand women or not, you can still get to sex because of the attraction and emotion SHE is going through.

If a woman feels affection for you, things will rarely lead to sex. When she loses attraction in a long-term relationship, there will usually be less sex.

Women who are out of touch with their own natural character will not have sex that often. women who are in touch with their natural character and emotion will have the ability to create
more relationships with men instead of closing them off from the beginning.

It does take more to open a new relationship with a 'Prada' or independent woman than it does with a natural woman. Why? Because of her logical and conscious development and mind, she
is blocking her natural intuitive abilities to respond to men and open her own path to relationships.

She is less likely to feel attraction because she usually saves it for her own private fantasy world. She differentiates it from the harsh, cold corporate climage that she lives in daily.

These women are more likely to feel affection for men instead of attraction because of the amount of habitual time they use their brain logically as well as the personal power that they have.

They are used to controlling relationships and not coming in second place so they tend to take relational authority over most of their men quite often. It's just their tendency.

If they're around a really strong man, they can feel attraction but it will often be fleeting once the heat of the moment is over.

Prickteases can feel massive attraction once a man can (instantly) break through her military-grade social front. Once he can see that she's not a sex object or a slut, she's more in touch with her emotions than the independent women usually are.

She can feel attraction and response to a man but if he's not an Alpha male, he'd better be able to see through her social powers in order to reach her natural attraction instead of her
gold-digging (social) response.

Affection is puppy love. Attraction is mad love and physicality.

You can determine how women view you because you are the one who chooses what type of relationship you're going to have with women.

If you want to represent the provider type and having women feel affection for you ('awww') then just listen to what mainstream dating teachers say. Buy her gifts and trade your money for her time.

If you want to turn her on and lead towards sex, then portray attributes of the lover. Keep money out of it, focus on raising her F.A.R.M. (female attraction response model) and remain the relational authority between the two of you.

Remember, women are the response to YOU as the stimulus. Choose your path and communicate those things that you want to communicate.

Can Self Confidence Be Trained?

"I get so nervous every time she talks to me."

"I like her but I get tongue tied every time I see her."

"I wish I was like him, he is so cool and knows just what to say around girls."

I'm very sure that by the time you are into your teens, you've heard variations of the above lines.

You would also have observed that the brain of some guys just stop functioning when they are within 100m of the girl that they adore. Other guys just breeze through their interaction with girls; so that brings us to this question… can we learn to flirt or is it a talent that you are born with and can never be learnt?

Let's side track a bit to the subject of public speaking and performing on stage. It is said that those who sing and speak very well are gifted. It is a talent that not many of us are born with. While it is true that there are people who are very talented and gifted, the rest of us who are not blessed with the gift can do equally well if we are trained to.

Of late many parents send their toddlers for public speaking and drama classes at a young age. And by the time they start formal schooling, they can speak confidently in public and perform on stage minus the stage fright. This goes to prove that with the right training, we can excel in a certain task.

The primary reasons I feel that many guys fail when it comes to flirting and chatting up the girls that they are attracted to is the fear of the unknown and lack of confidence. They don't know how the girls would react to them. They have no confidence that it would be a positive reaction. Therefore they hesitate and pass out the opportunity to get to know the girl they like.

If you are one of those guys who get tongue tied around women, there's hope yet. You can train yourself to be the cool guy that has a lot of fun talking to women.

Here are some tips on how you can get rid of the jitters:

1) Make it a point to smile and acknowledge girls that you meet on your way to work or in your office every day. It would be great if you'd greet them with a simple hi or good morning. Breaking the ice especially with a stranger helps you get over the initial nervousness. Do this often enough and it becomes a habit and soon, you won't even feel nervous anymore.

2) Volunteer to be in the organizing committee for any event that your company is hosting as that would put you into contact with ladies from different departments. The aim here is to help you to be more comfortable in the presence of women.

3) Visualize yourself talking to the girl that you fancy. Visualization helps because when the interaction actually takes place, it is something that is already familiar to you and it helps to get rid of the nervousness.

4) Do not put the girl that you are interested in on the pedestal. Do not idolize her. When you do that you create unrealistic expectations, thus making her out of reach when in fact she's just like any other ordinary girl that you know.

If you have not come to this realization yet, you have been interacting with women since the day that you were born. You grew up with at least one woman in your life; i.e. your mother. Some have sisters, aunts, grand mothers living under the same roof.

Therefore technically, you should not be nervous when talking to women. Just think of it as if you are talking to your mum or sister. Practice, practice and more practice till it becomes your second nature.

Good Luck!

What It Means When A Woman Tells You That She Is Busy

Women have so many ways of keeping men they aren't attracted to at bay that it isn't even funny (once you know about them it is funny though).

A real popular one women use that you would think wouldn't work on men, yet it does is;

I am really busy right now with (school, work, family, etc...)

When a woman tells a man this, at best he should wait for her to call him once her "busyness" has come to end.

The truth is that a majority of the time when a woman says that she is busy she really means;

I would rather deal with (school, work, family, etc...) than spend any amount of time with you.

The reality o how men respond to a woman like this, however, is really amazing as they continue to call and pursue the woman, even though that is the only thing they shouldn't be doing if they have any hopes of actually meeting up with her.

If a woman says that she is real busy take her word for it and don call or talk to her again till she calls you.

Calling a woman who says that she is real busy and really is will annoy her and destroy any attraction that she might have had for you.

Calling a woman who says that she is busy, but the truth of the matter is not rally interested in you, will not cause her to want to go out with you.

In the end, you can never really know if a woman is busy or just faking it until she calls you back.

Instead of waiting or worrying about that call, go out and meet other women and continue having a good time, then if she does call you every now and then you might find yourself telling her that you are busy right now if you even her answer her call.